If you are in a very good relationship right now and you are worrying how to ensure it doesn't turn sour like your previous relationships or other relationships you have witnessed. Then this article should interest you. One thing you should know is that you are not alone in your fears they are several people even married couples that seek the same thing. Well it’s pretty understandable with the increasing amount of divorce around the world one begins to wonder what happened to all that love the couple had for each other just a couple of years, months even weeks ago? If you have followed divorce cases closely you will notice couple [divorcing couples] say things like their partners suddenly became a different person entirely. I used to think that was just a lame excuse to wanting out of a relationship but after I gave some divorce cases a closer look I notice that it was no excuse. These couples really did “change”. But there is one angle many people never seem to consider- nobody is changing, what you are seeing is what the person truly is. The dark part he/she have kept buried when the relationship was at its earliest stage or the mask your partner wore just to get your attention is gradually fading away and you realize that what is behind the mask isn't pretty to say the least. In the midst of these fracas and hypocrisy, the question we find ourselves asking is where on earth can I find a lasting relationship one where I know for sure that no one is playing with my feelings or pretending to be something they are not.

 We all want to be in a peaceful loving relationship, for one a healthy, loving relationship can enhance many aspects of your life, from your emotional and mental well-being to your physical health and overall happiness. So how do you find one or better still how do you turn yours into the kind of relationship you've always dreamed of?

YOU ARE NOT PERFECT AND YOUR PARTNER ISN'T EITHER

First, you must acknowledge the fact that you are not perfect, hence do not expect your partner to be perfect in all their doings. If you are honest about to yourself there are certain things you do or ways you act that you aren't too proud of, so learn to accept that there will be things he/she will do that you will not like but you can either make them change or at least learn to live with it. It will help ease a lot pressure from both parties.

Each human has a unique personally, we differ from others in a lot of ways, we have different temperament, different up- bringing and most importantly different perspective to life. Instead of trying to force someone to always see things the you do or trying so hard to make yourself view life form another person’s perspective. I advice you: Appreciate the other person’s point of view no matter how it appears to you then you calmly [hey I said calmly-I know some guys are like calmly? YES calmly- She is your lady and you are a gentleman] explain yours. You will be amazed how much you can share and learn together this way.

ONE STEP AT A TIME

Be patient, this is especially for those starting a new relationship, I know patience is a virtue that few men possess and when it comes to relationships, we just want things to move with the speed of light. That is not always the best thing- consider the possibility that he/she might just be coming out of a bad relationship, and of course they might still be hurting. Must people start a new relationship when an old one ends because it is generally believed that that is the easiest way to forget their ex. Am not saying it’s a bad idea what I do know for sure is; the only one thing for sure that heals pain and broken hearts it’s TIME. So give your new partner time, let them open up to you little by little at their own pace.

 Yes you may try a little pressing for answers but don’t over- do it. Each time you press for answers or pry into their past make sure you send the proper message; you are doing it because you care and you just want to share more together. But like I said take things slow.

SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER

Spend quality time together, I know it sounds so cliché even a friend of mine was told me “it doesn't work, it’s just cliché I spent so much time with my last girl still it didn't work”. The one question I asked him was you- guys spent so much time together doing what? Yes not just spending the time together, it’s what you do together that counts, do you do things that will help you learn more about each other, help the relationship grow? Or you just spend time meeting your selfish sexual needs. When I say spend time together, I don’t mean. Spend all day in bed or just going to the movies. Hey don’t get me wrong, sex is good for any normal relationship so is going to the movies but if you really want your time together to add quality to your relationship you should consider spending time together alone, go somewhere where she will be your only focus and he will be your only focus. Some place where you won’t be distracted by the large cinema screen. A quiet time in a serene environment will get you and your partner relaxed and you guys can really discuss what matters- “your relationship”. Also if there is any particular activity or hobby that you both engage in you should do it together for fun AND for God sake if your partner doesn't like football there is no point forcing him/her to a football game. Mutual enjoyment is always important.

COMMUNICATE

Yes please, the reason why humans have this advanced vocal cord is to communicate. Don’t expect your partner to read the signs you give them. For some reasons he/she might just not pay attention or might even misinterpret your signs. Please help your partners make your relationship a lasting one. Tell them how you feel, if you are happy, express it let they know. When you are sad let them know when he/she says things that hurt you, get off your pride and tell him/her. I once spent some weeks with a couple that were keeping malice. That was a very long time ago yet I still remember each day. the reason why I always remember that couple is because they are like the “strangest” couple I have ever seen , you talk to the husband and each time he’s supposed to mention the wife’s name or he wants me to get something from his wife he just points to her and if she isn't near, he points in her direction. It was totally dumb. Be open. Express yourself. You ever wonder why kids are always happy- they express themselves.

MAKE PLANS TOGETHER

This is the best way to give your partner the impression that you consider them a huge part of your life. It’s not enough to tell them you are one big part of my life or my world is incomplete without you. Show it, and the best way to do that is to involve them in your life plans. Involving your partner in your life plans re assures them that you consider him/her for the long time that you want to build a life with him/her also learn to take his/her advice am not saying let someone else plan your life for you but there are times when you realize you need someone to help make a big decision, that is the time you show him/her you take his/her counsel serious. Nobody likes giving advice to people who wouldn't take them seriously. Make your partner feel important in your life.

LISTEN

This is one big problem with some if not most men, I hear men say “women talk too much” but in return the women say “men never listen” the truth is it’s not a problem of women talking too much or men not listening, it just that women talk more than a man is built to listen at a time. Men are very logical beings while women are more emotional, as much as the woman see the need to detail every event as it unfold from A.M to P.M a man is wore interested in the important things that mark the day. So my advice is especially for the women as tempting as it is to fill your man will your day to day activity as it unfold try as much as you can to direct more of your focus to the most important things. That way you keep his attention in the discussion and for the men I beseech you, please take it as a challenge to listen more to her.

The goal when treating Acne is to heal existing lesion, stop new lesion from forming, prevent scarring, and minimize the psychological stress and embarrassment caused by this condition. How your acne is treated may depend on how severe and persistent it is.
TREATING MILD ACNE
The majority of people who get Acne will develop mild Acne. This can usually be treated with OTC (over-the-counter) medications. OTC medications can be bought at a pharmacy without a doctor's prescription. They are usually applied to the skin. Most Acne OTC (Over-The-Counter) products may contain the following active ingredients:

·         Resorcinol - Helps break down blackheads and whiteheads. It is a crystalline phenol and comes from   various resins. Resorcinol is also used for treating dandruff eczema and psoriasis.

·         Benzoyl Peroxide - Kills bacteria and slows down your glands' production of oil. Benzoyl peroxide is a white crystalline peroxide used in bleaching (flour or oils or fats) and as a catalyst for free radical reactions. It works as a peeling agent, accelerating skin turnover and clearing pores, which in turn reduces the bacterial count in the affected area.

·         Salicylic Acid - Helps break down Blackheads and Whiteheads also reduces shedding of cells which line the follicles of the oil glands, effective in treating inflammation and swelling. Salicylic acid is a white crystalline substance which is also used as a fungicide, or in making aspirin or dyes or perfumes. It causes the epidermis to shed skin more easily, prevents pores from becoming blocked while at the same time allowing room for new cells to grow. It is commonly added to shampoos used for treating dandruff.

•   Sulfur - Helps break down blackheads and whiteheads. Sulfur, in its natural form, is a yellow crystalline  solid. Sulfur has been used for centuries for treating acne, psoriasis and eczema. Scientists are not sure how sulfur works to help skin diseases. We do know that elemental sulfur does oxidize slowly to sulfurous acid which is a mild reducing and antibacterial agent.
•   Retin-A - Helps unplug blocked pores. Retin-A contains Tretinoin, an acid form of vitamin A, also known as all-trans retinoic acid (ATRA). Tretinoin is also used for the treatment of acute promyelocytic leukemia. Retin-A has been used widely to combat aging of the skin, it also acts as a chemical peel.
• Azelaic Acid - Strengthens cells that line the follicles, stops oil eruptions reduces bacteria growth. It is a saturated dicarboxylic acid found naturally in wheat, rye, and barley. Azelaic acid also mops up free radicals, which reduces inflammation. It is useful for patients with darker skin who have dark patches on their face (melasma), or whose acne spots leave persistent brown marks.

You can buy Acne medications in the forms of gels, soaps, pads, creams and lotions. If your skin is sensitive you may prefer a cream or lotion. Gels, which are usually alcohol based and tend to dry the skin, are better for people with oily skin. OTC medications will have these ingredients in different concentrations. It is advisable to start with the lowest strengths. You may experience skin irritation, redness, and/or burning when you first try them. These side effects usually go away after continued use. If they don't you should see your doctor.

TREATING MORE SEVERE CASES OF ACNE
If your acne is more severe you should consider seeing a dermatologist - a skin specialist. The specialist may prescribe a treatment that contains some of the active ingredients mentioned above, such as Benzoyl Peroxide, Azelaic acid, as well as Adabalene. Prescription medications for acne are presented in many forms, such as creams, lotions, etc. Your dermatologist will decide what is best for you. You may be prescribed an oral or topical antibiotic. Antibiotics can combat the growth of bacteria and reduce inflammation. Most commonly Erythromycin and Tetracycline are prescribed as antibiotics for the treatment of acne.

• Treating a Cyst With Interlesional Corticosteroid Injection
  If an acne cyst becomes severely inflamed there is a high risk of rupturing. A rupturing acne cyst can often result in scarring. The specialist may inject a diluted corticosteroid to treat the inflamed cyst and to prevent scarring. The injection will lower the inflammation and speed up healing. The cyst will "melt" within a few days.
• Isotretinoin
  This is a strong oral retinoid, used for the treatment of severe cystic acne, as well as severe acne that has not responded to other medications and treatments.
• Oral Antibiotics
  Oral antibiotics are frequently prescribed for patients with severe acne and some patients with moderate acne too. The aim of such oral antibiotics is to lower the population of Propionibacterium Acnes (P. acnes), a bacterium commonly found on the skin, which will multiply rapidly in blocked follicles. The dosage will be initially high, and then as the acne reduces so will the dosage. Antibiotics are not taken for more than six months. As time passes the P. acnes can become resistant to the antibiotic and another antibiotic is needed. Some American studies have indicated that it is better to use oral broad-spectrum antibiotics.
• Oral Contraceptives
  The majority of women with acne find that taking certain oral contraceptives clears it up. Oral contraceptives suppress the overactive gland and are commonly used as long-term treatments for acne in women. If the woman has a blood-clotting disorder, smokes, has a history of migraines or is over 35, she should not take this medication without checking with a gynecologist first.
• Topical Antimicrobials                                                                                              As with oral antibiotics, the aim of topical antimicrobials for the treatment of acne is to reduce P. acnes populations. Topical antimicrobials are used for patients with moderate to severe acne. Examples may be clindamycin Erythromycin, and Sodium Sulfacetamide.

The Dermatologist may prescribe a topical retinoid. Topical Retinoids are a derivative of Vitamin A and are very popular for the treatment of Acne. They unclog the pores and prevent whiteheads and blackheads from developing. Examples of topical Retinoids prescribed in the USA are Adapalene, Tazarotene, and Tretinoin.

Many random thoughts race through our brains every single moment of the day. Some of these thoughts make sense but most make no sense at all. A few are perhaps practical thoughts about what we should be shopping or doing now, tomorrow or next week, reminding ourselves of this or that and that's perfectly OK because it's reasonable and is helpful to us. A few thoughts are reflections perhaps about what we did and what we could have done better, or contemplation and reflections about some word or sentence we heard or picked up somewhere, maybe it was a movie we saw. This is good for us because it expands our mind and horizon opening up new venues of creative thoughts and ideas. But and here lies the danger, most of our thoughts are plain stupid, useless and senseless, negative and, therefore, are self destructive and self sabotaging thoughts. It is these negative thoughts that keep us enslaved in a world of negativity blocking our way from moving freely forward to a happier space of being.

Some lucky people have actually managed to cross over this invisible barrier to stop being slaves of their thoughts and have actually managed to learn to gain control over their negative thinking patterns enough to eliminate them. They have managed to escape from the prison of negative thinking and it's misery. How is that possible you may ask? How did they manage to do that? I can't do that, or can I really stop my negative thoughts?

The answer is yes you can! Believe it or not yes you can! There's a little technique involved and some work to do in the process of course; but first you need to recognize the fact that you are a slave to your negative inner thoughts; you need to have the genuine desire to put an end to your life of negativity; make the decision, invest some time, will power and effort, and be persistent until you have succeeded. Keep on trying again and again and before you know it your life will be taking a different course to a path of fun, laughter and abundance in every way that you can imagine.

Here are a few hints to help you on your way. The rest is up to you.

·         Stop feeling irritated about anything or anyone. Stop complaining about anything and everything. Nothing is more annoying than to be with people who find fault with every situation and with everybody. From now on you accept people as they are and you take things in your stride whether you like or not. Remember you might be doing things to irritate or upset other people too, would you like it if they were mean or rude to you? No you wouldn't, you would be hurt. So try to keep that in mind. The world does not evolve around you. Instead you try to fit in and to contribute good vibes wherever you go. You are here to make the world a better place whenever and wherever you can.

·         Stop surrounding yourself with negative people who know nothing else but to complain about everything. If you can't remove them from your life and you are forced to spend time with them, then try this approach. Every time they open their mouth, smile and say something positive. For example how great nature is, talk about wonderful, marvelous, fun stuff and laugh... Do not allow yourself to be sucked into their negative drama. These people are polluting the air with their negative energy. Interrupt them. Ignore what they say. You'll be helping them by not listening to them.

·         Surround yourself with positive happy people who love life and who love themselves. They tend to appreciate the fact that they are alive. They are the ones who spread good energy around them and you want some of that good energy so you can spread it around yourself.

·         Do not watch the news or read about the daily catastrophes in the world. Of course you can read the headlines, take note of that to keep up with the general news of the day, but you don't need to read or know about or listen to the awry details. You can find plenty of news on line about happy happenings all over the world. A lot of that is going on that mainstream media do not show you. Ignore all the ones who bring bad tidings. Follow the ones who bring you good news of good people, creative people, people who contribute to the welfare of the human family.

·         Make a habit to watch yourself, analyze yourself, pay attention, be conscious of what you are thinking about mostly, of your words and what you speak about, be conscious of your actions and behavior. This way you better understand clearly what you are all about and if you see negativity in yourself then you know you have to change that and you know what to do.

·         Whatever you find out about yourself accept it, accept yourself as you are negative or positive or both, and love yourself anyway. Once you have accepted yourself as you are and you like yourself as you are, the good and the bad, you are ready for the change that you wish to see in yourself.

·         The thing is you see, you need to become aware of who you are and what you are, to take notice and to pay attention to yourself. You need to love yourself, to have self confidence. You need to like yourself and who you are. Only then are you able to like and appreciate others.

·         Fill your mind from the moment you wake up in the morning until the last moment before you fall asleep with positive thoughts and affirmations. Feel these emotionally, feel that you are loved with passion, feel the passion in everything you do. Feel and feel and feel again, that you are alive, it's a privilege so enjoy being alive and be grateful that you can experience life.

Too many people walk around laughing and pretending to be happy, who are positive only on the outside, they are plagued with negativity, their inner thoughts and feelings are hate resentment jealousy and low self esteem. Needless to say this is a perfect prescription for serious illness and disease. You want to not only push the negative thoughts away but to really clear your whole system, your heart, your emotional body and your aura, everything about you inside and out needs to be positive.

Acne, medically known as Acne Vulgaris, is a skin disease that involves the oil glands at the base of hair follicles. It commonly occurs during puberty when the sebaceous (oil) glands come to life - the glands are stimulated by male hormones produced by the adrenal glands of both males and females. The word acne comes from the Greek word akme meaning "the highest point". Acne at its most basic is a disorder of the pilosebaceous unit, or what is commonly called the hair follicle or pore. According to the American Academy of Dermatology, it is the most common skin disorder in the United States.

Acne commonly starts during puberty between the ages of ten (10) and thirteen (13) and tends to be worse in people with oily skin. It is estimated that 80% of eleven (11) to thirty (30) years are affected by Acne. It most commonly develops in the face attacking over 90% of its victims in that particular region, the back affecting 60% and the chest 15%.Teenage Acne usually last for five to ten years, normally clearing out in the early 20s, it occurs in both sexes and all race although teenage boys tend to have more severe cases (probably because Testosterone, which is present in higher quantities in young men can make it worse). Women however are more likely than men to have mild or moderate Acne into their 30s and beyond (over 80% of adult Acne victims are women). This is also most likely due to link between Acne and hormones. Dermatologists describe Acne as a disease of the pilosebaceous units (PSUs).  Found over most of the body. PSUs, consists   of a canal called a follicle, that contains a fine hair. These units are most numerous on the face, upper back and chest. The sebaceous gland makes an oily substance called sebum that normally empties onto the skin surface through the opening of the follicle (commonly called a pore). The hair sebum and KERATINOCYTES (these are cells that line the follicle) that fill the follicle may produce a plug which is an early sign of Acne. The plug prevents sebum from reaching the surface of the skin through the pore. The mixture of oil and cells allows the bacteria PROPIONIBACTERIUM ACNES (p. acnes) that normally live in the skin to grow in the plugged follicle. The bacteria produce chemicals and enzymes and attract white blood cells that cause inflammation. When the wall of the plugged follicle breaks down, it spills everything into the nearby skin sebum, shed skin cells, and bacteria-Leading to Lesions. People with Acne frequently have a variety of lesions. The basic lesion called the COMEDO (KOM-e-do) is simply an enlarged and plugged hair follicle.

TYPES OF LESIONS                                                                         WHITEHEADS:  Whitehead results if the plugged follicle (Comedo) stays beneath the skin.                                                                                                                        

BLACKHEADS: Results when a Comedo reaches the surface of the skin and opens up (it is called a blackhead because it looks black on the skin’s surface).               

PAPULES:  This is an inflamed lesion that usually appears as a small bump on the skin and can be tender to touch-It is a circumscribed, solid elevation of the skin with no visible fluid, and comes in varying sizes. They can be purple, pink or red in color. The papules may be open when scratched and becomes infected and crusty.

PUSTULES (PIMPLES):  Another type of Acne lesion is pustule, it is a small inflamed swelling of the skin that is filled with pus (It is similar to blisters). They may or may not be tender to touch, pustules most commonly occur on the face, chest and areas of increased sweating.

NODULES:  Skin nodules are slightly elevated lesion on or in the skin. They are larger than Papules. The depth of the lesion is more significant than the width. Some are free within the Dermis some are fixed to the skin above or below the Subcutaneous Tissue. Nodules are painful to touch.           

CYSTS:  Cyst is a closed sac, having a distinct membrane and division compared to the nearby tissue. It may contain air, fluids or semi-solid materials. Cysts occur within tissues and can affect any part of the body. They vary in size from microscopic to the size of some team-sport balls.

CAUSES OF ACNE

 Experts believe the primary cause 0f acne is a rise in androgen levels.  Androgen levels rise when a human becomes an adolescent. Rising androgen levels make the oil glands under your skin grow; the enlarged gland produces more oil. Excessive sebum can break down cellular walls in your pores, causing bacteria to grow. Acne skin also produces more dead skin cells than is normal, and those skin cells are not being shed properly (a condition called retention hyperkeratosis). These dead cells stick to the surface of the skin and inside the follicles, mixing with excess oil and creating a Comedo. When the pore becomes blocked by cellular debris and oil, a bacterium that is normally present within the pore grows unchecked. Propionibacteria acnes (P. acnes) are found in great numbers on acneic skin, causing inflamed breakouts. Certain factors have been proven to trigger Acne at different stages in life, they include:   

GENETICS

 Researchers believe that the tendency to develop Acne can be inherited from parents. This is particularly something to consider if you are experiencing adult Acne. Research conducted at the General Infirmary at Leads, department of Dermatology in the UK suggests that family factors are important in determining individual susceptibility to adult facial Acne. Genetic factors may determine the failure of Acne-prone follicles to evolve into Acne-resistant follicles in early adult life. Acne gene is called Retention hyperkeratosis. What this means is that you have inherited the ability to over produce dead skin cells, then improperly shed them when you shouldn’t. This results in abnormally shaped lining of the pore that is prone to clogging, which will eventually result in Acne lesions if nothing is done about it.

 HORMONES

Common Acne in teenagers starts with an increase in hormone production. During puberty, both boys and girls produce high levels of androgen which signals the body to make more sebum. According to the America Academy of Dermatology, testosterone works to stimulate oil gland activity, making an oiler skin more prone to Acne break-outs. Androgens are hormones released from the adrenal glands, ovaries and tests. Testosterone is an androgen hormone, while it is typically thought of as a male hormone it is present both in male and female.

Menstrual Acne (a flare up of blemish every month that coincides with menstruation) is fairly common. According to a study published in the archives of Dermatology, 63% of Acne-prone women experience these premenstrual flares. They usually strike about seven(7) to ten (10) days before a woman’s period starts and then subsides as soon as bleeding begins. The average menstrual cycle is 28days. Each of these days is different hormonally. In the first half of a woman’s menstrual cycle, the predominant hormone is Estrogen, whereas Progesterone is predominant in the second half “– OB-GYN- Elizabeth Gutrecht Lyster, MD. The levels of both hormones fall to their lowest level of the month as bleeding approaches. Meanwhile, the male hormone Testosterone (available in small amount in women) stays at a constant level all month. This means that before and during menstruation, Testosterone is relatively higher than the female hormones. These hormonal shifts do all sorts of things to a woman’s skin. Again the mid-cycle Progesterone rise stimulates the production of sebum. And as the levels of progesterone increases, skin cells and pores are compressed shut, as a result pores appear minimized.  This also causes sebum to build up beneath the skin’s surface. Still higher Testosterone levels around menstruation further activate the sebaceous gland to make even more sebum (Sebum yields different effect in different women. For some, it produces a healthy glow, for others, it creates a chronic oil slick, says Kunin Audrey MD of dermadoctor.com). The oil provides food for the bacteria P. acnes. This bacterium causes increased breakouts and inflammation around the time of women’s period.                                                                  

 BACRETIA

 A bacteria known as Propionbacterium Acnes (P. acnes) is a normal inhabitant of the skin. It uses sebum as a nutrient for growth. People with Acne have more propionbacterium acnes in their follicles than people without acne. The presence of propionbacterium attracts white blood cells to the follicle.  These white blood cells produce enzymes that damage the wall of the follicle, allowing contents of the follicle to enter the dermis. This process causes an inflammatory response seen as papules (red bumps), pustules and nodules. The bacteria also cause the format ion of free fatty acids which are irritants, increasing the inflammatory process in the follicle.

DIET

 It is a commonly debunked myth that certain foods cause breakouts, but this is not say that your diet doesn’t matter when it comes to Acne. Diets high in sugar, refined carbohydrates and trans-fats, and low in anti-oxide, create systemic inflammation, which manifests itself in the form of Acne, Rosacea or Premature aging. Diets that is high in pro-inflammatory omega 6-fatty acids, while low in inflammatory- soothing omega 3 can also trigger Acne.

OTHER FACTORS THAT CAN MAKE ACNE WORSE

Anxiety and Stress - Mental stress can affect your levels of some hormones, such as cortisol and adrenaline, which in turn can make Acne worse. Again, stress can make some people binge-eat. Experts believe the culprits are most likely the hormone levels, rather than the binge-eating.                    

Hot and Humid Climates - When it is hot and humid we sweat more. This can make the acne worse.

Oil based Make-ups - Moisturizing creams, lubricating lotions, and all makeup that contains oil can speed up the blocking of your pores. Try as much as you can to avoid such products, water based product are much better.

Greasy hair - Some hair products are very greasy and might have the same effect as oil based makeup. Hair products such as cocoa butter or coconut butter contain much oil. 

Squeezing the pimples - if you try to squeeze pimples your acne is more likely to get worse, plus you risk scarring.                                                                                                 

MYTHS ABOUT CAUSES OF ACNE.

There are several wrongly assumed causes of Acne. These myths are most likely spread by teenagers or even parent that try to manipulate their young children to stop them from either eating or indulging in certain activities. Some of these myths include:                           
You can catch Acne from someone else- This is completely false as acne is not contagious.

 Masturbation causes Acne- This one is a very popular myth especially with teenagers. But that is definitely not true, there is so far no medical evidence backing such claim. Masturbation doesn't cause acne and neither does sex.  

 Chocolate, pizza, and French fries cause Acne – Though it is true that certain food can increase your risk of acne breakout there is however no prove that pizza or French fries or even chocolate at that causes Acne.

   

Lasting longer in bed seems to be one of the main concerns men have concerning sex. This particular topic is so important to men that you see several guys posting this exact question in forums and so many other places. Just asking the same thing "HOW CAN I LAST LONGER IN BED?"  

It’s completely understandable, you wouldn't blame them. I for one understand just how embarrassing it is to cum a little too soon. Believe me I Lost my first ever girlfriend for that single reason and each time I reminisce about the whole thing, it makes me laugh. I went in to her and I didn't even last 45 seconds. I couldn't even control my thrusting. Well in my defense that was my first time and I didn't really know what I was doing. But she left with a sad and displeased face and since that fateful day I never heard from her, ever again.

After that event, I decide I was not going to have sex again with any woman until I knew what I was doing. Hence, I decide to take sex as a course. I was going to master the act of pleasing women sexually……ask about my progress?  Am not there yet because I don’t think I qualify to be addressed as a master yet. Truth is the more I learned the more I discovered there was even more to learn. One thing I have come to understand it’s the fact that any man can last as long as he chooses in bed so long he is ready to make the necessary sacrifice. I mean take a good look at your life almost every good thing you know how to do so well today you had to learn how to do it didn't you? So why do we now think we should be masters at sex just by default?

Now back to our discussion. Unless you are a man from a different planet giving a woman orgasm is a hell of an ego booster…there is something about being able to please a woman that gives you this feeling that you are special, different if fact the word is you are super. Fellas trust me you are! indeed. Truth is only very few women even have orgasm during sex largely because of time difference between the male and female orgasm. So if you are able to hold your orgasm long enough just till she has hers or you have it together then you really are THE MAN!

By default, it takes a man about 4 minutes to cum after penetration heck some men even cum in seconds [I did] if they don’t have proper control or get too excited. But on the other hand it takes a woman about 18 minutes to reach orgasm. Yeah!!!!!!

Did I hear you say that is suicide? HOW DO YOU EXPECT ME TO KEEP THRUSTING FOR 18 WHOLE MINUTES? THAT WAS THE QUESTION I ASKED WHEN I FIRST SAW THAT RESEARCH. Then I told myself “it’s pointless I can't do it”

Good news Fellas is that yours sincerely as I write this post I sometimes go for 20-25 minutes [even more]. I have to make myself cum when I realize she is at it already…so trust me, if I can do it [all the way from 45 secs] then I believe anyone definitely can do it too. All you need is patience and dedication to these easy steps that I am going to give you on how to last longer in bed.

MASTURBATION

When you masturbate, try lasting up to 15 minutes before ejaculating. I advice you have a timer/stopwatch close to you. Each time you feel you’re close just stop and breath, allow the tension to cool off a little before you begin again. When masturbating have the woman's orgasm in mind, not your own. This will help you focus on the more important thing, which is pleasing the woman, and it will help you keep your mind off ejaculating.

BREATHING

I realize that most people hardly breathe properly during sex- just short breathes which is as bad as not breathing at all. Breathe .Let it start from your stomach, draw in long breaths and release completely. If you get too aroused and it seems you are losing control of your nostrils breath with your mouth [remember complete breathe]. Don’t worry about the sound you make, heavy breathing can be a great turn on for your partner during sex. Whatever you do just make sure you are breathing completely. If you realize you stopped [trust me it can happen-involuntary at some point during sex].Force yourself to resume.

PROLONG FOREPLAY  

Spending more time on foreplay helps you remain cool and in control of your excitement. Take your time on her body kiss her from head to toe some women even get turned on when you kiss their hair [strange but true]. See her body as an adventure, let every kiss linger especially her stomach, abdomen and vagina. Be sensitive during foreplay notice how she reacts to any part of her body you touch this will help you stimulate her better. Give more attention to her more sensitive spots this will bring her closer to orgasm so when you penetrate you won’t have to work too hard to get her there.

DON'T THINK OF HAVING AN ORGASM DURING SEX.

 When you think of finishing, that's exactly what will happen. Focus on something else like pleasing your partner. Focus on her curves, her body, and what's going on at the moment. Enjoy the moment.

TRY DIFFERENT POSITIONS.

By doing this not only are you showing her that you can please her in multiple ways, but you'll find out what she enjoys most.

This will also allow you to last longer in bed, because it'll give you resting periods and prevent over-stimulation from one position. But please don’t copy that insert and remove thing they do in porn movies that won’t help you.

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TAKE SHORT BREAKS

During sex, if you feel you're becoming too aroused, stop for 5-10 seconds and let the excitement subside. Instead of thrusting try pressing. The difference is that when you thrust you have a burst of blood flow and your excitement increases much faster. It's better to avoid this until the end when either you or she's ready to climax.

EXERCISE [USE KEGEL EXERCISES]

These exercises help to tighten muscles that are responsible for ejaculatory control. The more you work these muscles out the more control you have on how soon you ejaculate. This also helps for erectile dysfunction, going to the bathroom too often. To do these exercises you first have to find the muscle. Next time you pee, try stopping mid flow. That flexing you used to stop peeing is the same flexing you need to practice. Flex the muscle daily. Flex the muscle for 5 seconds and release. Do this for 10 minutes a day, and it will do you wonders.

NUMBING CREAM

I doubt you will need numbing cream if you can follow the steps I listed above faithfully. I have being working with these same steps I listed above and am doing pretty well. However, you can make use numbing cream while you still work on improving your yourself naturally.  Though you have to be careful which product you opt for. Not all numbing creams are completely healthy for your penis.

 The immune system is a system of biological structures and processes within an organism that protects against disease. To function properly, an immune system must detect a wide variety of agents, from viruses to parasites, worms and distinguish them from the organism’s own health tissues. Your immune system protects you from disease by preventing bacteria and viruses from entering the body. They work by creating all sort of physical barriers to prevent such pathogens from gaining access to your system. Your immune system does a great job of keeping you healthy and preventing infections. Thus problems with the immune system can leave you exposed to all sort of illness and diseases, it is important to keep your immune system fired up and ready for all the day’s action. I'm going to share with you some fast and easy methods to strengthen your immune system quickly. Whether you think you have a strong or weak immune system these tips will help you make sure your immune system is tough, and ready to ward off any potential diseases, cold or flu viruses. These tips are very easy to follow, but do require that you abide by them consistently to give yourself an immune system boost.

1 Eat Healthy

If you want to boost your immune system and keep it strong, it is essential that you eat properly and healthy. This means to eat regularly, and to eat things that are nutritious and beneficial to your health. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables like broccoli, carrots and grapefruits. Broccoli and carrots are great antioxidants, and grapefruits are jam packed with natural vitamin C. It is also very important to avoid foods with unnatural sugar such as soft drinks and candy.

2. Take Immune System Boosting Supplements

Along with all of these immune system boosting tips, it is also a good idea to take a diversified range of quality supplements. I will list some of the best ones here that help strengthen your immune system.

·         Echinacea/Goldenseal

Echinacea and goldenseal often come together. Their work is to boost the immune system, so that when a virus hits, the system is more able to handle it. It is important to take the supplement during times of wellness and increase intake during times of imbalance.

·         Vitamin Formulas

There are several immune boosting vitamin formulas that you can add to water  for a tasty fizzy drink, and there are also sugar free forms for diabetics.

·         Osha Root Tinctures

Osha root is an excellent yet awful tasting way to boost immune system. Try to find a tincture that includes echinacea, mullein leaf, licorice root, elecampane root, oregano leaf, Irish moss and grindelia buds.

·         Grapeseed Extract

Pure Grapeseed extract is a potent way to prevent and fight disease. It helps fight off bacteria that can weaken the immune system.

·         Green Tea

Green tea is a great immune system booster. Green tea contains antioxidant that help keep your cells at their healthiest.

·         Homeopathic Formulas

There are many formulas with zinc, glycine and gluconate which some people use for cold prevention. There are other homeopathic formulas that can be purchased over the counter which are very helpful.

3 Regular Exercises

One of the best and easiest ways to boost your immune system is to exercise as often as possible. Things like jogging, weight lifting, and active sports are great to do, especially during the winter when we are more susceptible to colds and flu viruses. Keeping your body active strengthens your ability to fight off disease, and gets your blood flowing, which allows your body to produce natural antiviral properties.

4 Get Good Sleep and Rest

 Ensure that you’re getting adequate sleep and rest. If you have a long day and then go to the gym, and stay up very late, you are running down your body. Make sure you’re getting good sleep so that your body is recuperated, and your system is boosted and ready to take on the next day.

5 Avoid Alcohol & Smoking

This is an extremely important point. No matter how much good food or supplements you take, if you smoke cigarettes or drink too often, you WILL get sick. Smoking and drinking alcohol destroys your fragile natural body defenses. Even if you boost up your immune system over a long period of time, just a couple of drinks or smokes will bring it right back down to a weak immune system. There are no two ways about it, you have to avoid smoking and or drinking. This might not be easy if you’re a seasoned smoker or drinker, but it is well worth the try.

6 Lead a Healthy Clean Life

Staying clean and washing your hands regularly may seem obvious, but a lot of people do forget. Don't forget to wash your hands, it is easy. It is a fact that the majority of people get sick because of being in public areas, as this makes you vulnerable to germs. If you’re going to the gym or doing sports, don't forget to take a bath or shower as soon as possible after, and to wash your clothes and equipment.

7 Try to Avoid Stress

Stress is an immune system killer. You may not realize it but all those stressful things that happen during your day can run down your system. Try to avoid all unnecessary stressful moments. This one can be hard to master but you'll love your life if you do.