A first date is any type of initial meeting between two individuals, whether or not previously acquainted. First dates are very important to any relationship because they often set the tone for the relationship thus it is important you create the best impression on your first date; that is the potential relational turning point.

When planning a first date, most guys tend to go with either dinner or a movie night-There is nothing wrong with either, but if you don’t want to be like most guys (predictable), you have to be more creative with your first date strategies. A good first date should allow for conversations and connection; You ought to have a balance of both-conversation and good connection. One quick tip; before you plan any first date, think about her interest and personality. If she’s not the outdoorsy type, then you have no reason planning an outdoorsy activity. If she’s not into art and culture there is not point dragging her to a museum.  Plan your date in line with her interest. If you can make your date feel comfortable on the date, and use these cool ideas to get her adrenaline pumping and top it up with quality romance, there is no way she won’t want a second date. Mix the date ideas so you can keep the date exciting, comfortable and romantic. That said, allow me show you some amazingly creative first date ideas that will completely blow her mind

1.      AMUSEMENT PARK: You can take your date to an amusement park, pick a few crazy rides together and before you know it, the chemistry will be sizzling with adrenaline.

2.     LIVE CONCERT: You can always take your date to a live concept of her favorite band- that’s if your date is into music. This kind of gesture is always appreciated.

3.     CARNIVALS: Carnivals can be a little pricy but it will be totally worth it. The explosion of colors is a wonderful thing to experience. You can spend hours together, act silly and still have a perfect date.

4.     KARAOKE: This is another great spot to have fun and you don’t have to be a great singer but if you are anyways, great she’d be thrilled however, if you’re not, you could just have a fun laughing at how terrible you sound. Either ways you still win.

5.     WATCH A GAME: If your date is really into sports, then take them to see their favorite team play(tip- preferable a game where their favorite team will win- you want them in a good mood)

6.     COMEDY: Taking your date to a stand-up comedy show is a perfect way to get them relaxed and excited. You can even make it “more perfect” by coupling it with dinner after or during the show.

7.     STAR GAZING: If it’s a clear warm night, then take your date stargazing. Go with a blanket, bug spray, a bottle of wine (and glasses of course) and telescope if you have one.

8.     WINE TASTING: Vineyard tours are quite exciting and romantic experience. Don’t get all pro just have fun with the whole tasting thing.

9.      BEACH: A day at the beach or an hour walking near the waves can make both of you comfortable with each other…don’t forget to hold hands.

10.  ICE CREAM PARLOR: Take your date back to their childhood. Take your date to an ice cream parlor and order a huge ice cream for him/her. You are sure to bring a grin up his/her face.

11.   COOK AND EAT: going to a cook and eat restaurant is always a wonderful experience. It will help you bond and laugh when you goof up and awe when you cook up a perfect little dish.

12.  FLY A PLANE:  Not fly, fly… You can take your date to some “plane flying” simulation centers. It’s always fun, the feel of piloting planes is something we all love.

13.  HORSE BACK RIDING: Take your date horse-back riding; women love it because it is such a sexy rush and men love it because it makes them feel manly.

14.  HISTORICAL SITES: A trip down history lane is always a good idea. History is interesting to virtually everyone. You can also grab a souvenir that will ensure your date has fond memories of your first date.

15.   BOOKSTORE: If your date is a book lover then a bookstore is perfect for a first date. There is something about being in the midst of books to a book lover that just makes them smile(am one so I can tell)

16.  NATURE WALK: if your date is an admirer of nature then take them a very beautiful and tranquil natural setting.

17.   AQUARIUM: Aquariums are naturally romantic settings thus taking your date to an aquarium will bring you guys closer.

18.   MUSEUM: A museum may not be the typical date idea, but no matter which museum you go to you are sure to find something interesting to see for a couple of hours.

19.  SHOOTING RANGE: This is adrenaline pumping at its best. If you want to get your date all worked up before a meal, head to a rifle range and fire a few rounds. Even if you don’t hit a target you inevitably look like a bad ass

20. HOT AIR BALLOON: This will make for an unforgettable first date. A hot air balloon and a glass of champagne on a first date is UN-FORGETTABLE.

There you have it, 20 top first date ideas that will wow your date. However always remember the most important first date tip- plan your date in line with their interest. All your efforts will be a waste if you plan something he/she has no interest in.  Ensure your new sweetheart leaves the date with something memorable (a souvenir) that way they have a lasting impression of your first date [check out:1o signs your date likes you on a first date]

Approaching someone for the first time is tough and nerve wrecking but the result is infinitely worth the risk. Many men have tried and tried really hard yet failed miserably at starting up a conversation with a woman they just come across either at a party, a bar or on the street. When it comes to starting a conversation with a girl one just met, some guys wonder; should I go with a cool pick up line or some confident walk up followed by some smooth talking. Well either could work but many times it won`t because you are predictable. Why? That is the same exact thing most guys will do and women are probably already sick and tired of cheesy pick up lines. You have to come with a different approach one that keeps her surprises her yet makes her comfortable. Warm her up to the conversation, let her know you intend to walk up to her and say hello to her, allow your eyes do the initial talking, give her sweet stares( not the I want you in bed stare- just I admire you stare). If she reciprocates your stare, it means she is anticipating you and wondering when you are going to walk up to her- This will actually build up the excitement and make her wait for you instead. Now if you decide to make the move and crack up a conversation with her here are a few pointers on how to start up a conversation with a girl [if you are still struggling with shyness around women then you must: Swallow the frog and overcome shyness with women]

INTRODUCE YOURSELF

Approach the girl with a smile (there is nothing more charming than warm and sincere smile) and say hello. Tell her your name and ask for hers; Keep it simple. A genuine polite greeting beats a cheesy pick up line any day.

ASK HOW SHE’S DOING

Asking a girl how she’s doing doesn’t only make a good impression, it tells her that you are genuinely interested in her. A polite “how is your day going?” is a nice way to get her talking.

FIND A COMMON GROUND

You can comment about the weather, class work or event depending on where you are meeting her. Just make your comment be more like a question so you can get her opinion

POSE AN INTERESTING QUESTION

Now ask her an unusual/thought provoking question. This will surely break the ice as she is both surprised and impressed at the same time. Ask something like “if you had the power to change something on earth what would that be?” or what are the top three places you would like to visit before you grow old?

AVOID CONTROVERSIAL TOPICS

Bringing up controversial topics such as politics or religion can make her feel uncomfortable or even get her angry. Talk about nature, weather and wild life or even history. These topics are less sensitive.

AVOID YES OR NO QUESTIONS

Avoid questions that can be answered with simple yes or no. try to ask more open-ended questions that require longer, more thoughtful answers.

COMPLIMENT HER

Now is the time to throw in some sweet compliment to make her feel like a princess but be careful your compliments don’t sound lame and out of place. It’s best you channel your compliment along the line of your discussion. Tell her, how smart her answers to your questions were or tell her you nice and friendly she is for talking to you. If she smile s to any of your compliments then add how lovely her smile is, don’t get carried away, one or two precise compliment is probably all that you need.

ASK A PERSONAL QUESTION

If you have follow the previous steps well, she’s probably already comfortable talking to you by now so try to throw in a personal question-it will tell her you want to get to know her better. However, don’t go on and on with your questions- the goal is to engage her not intrude.

OPEN UP

Open up about yourself give the girl more and more reasons to like you. Respond to her questions and let her get to know you a little. But don’t get carried away talking about yourself nobody likes anyone that is full of themselves even if you are, you don’t want to show her that now.

MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT

It is important to maintain eye contact before and during the conversation. If she notice you are looking away she might take it you are not interested in the conversation or she’s boring you. Don’t send the wrong message. Keep that smile on your face and maintain a good eye contact.

I hope these tips work well for you………………..best of luck guys.

Shyness is a debilitating condition for many man, it prevents them from functioning well in social situations, and from voicing their real concerns in public. Shyness is also one of men’s greatest weaknesses when it comes to women. This is the reason why most men find it difficult to approach a woman.

The root of men’s shyness when approaching women, are his negative thoughts. Just before a guy makes his move on a lady, they are three questions that ring in his head:

        i.            What if am rejected- his mind quickly plays a scene of the woman rejecting him and how ashamed he would feel

     ii.            What if she ignores me or worse, what if she just laughs at me?

   iii.            What if I say the wrong things (for some others it’s; I don’t even know what to say to her).

These negative possibilities that play in his mind gets him nervous, hesitant and most often times he backs out.

Shyness has stopped most good men with great qualities from dating the woman of their dreams. If you are the shy type and you secretly fear that you may not be able to date the girl of your dreams just because you can’t summon enough courage to approach her. Then the time to come out of your hole is now- **swallow that frog** Here are few tips to help you overcome your shyness when approaching a woman

GET OUT AND SOCIALIZE

Join activities in which you are always interacting with people. Be prepared to exchange pleasantries with people in your activity group. Don’t be afraid to chat up (start a conversation) with people in your activity group. A simple hello, how is it going? is enough to start a conversation.

                    

TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME

Start with a smile; show everyone you are friendly and approachable then you can move on to saying “hi” from there “making complements” then “small talks”. As you keep going you’d see it’s not as hard as you thought.

If beautiful women intimidate you take baby steps up the beauty scale. Start by approaching more average-looking women you feel confident with. As you become at ease with them, you can then move on to prettier women.

                   THIS IS WHY YOU AREN'T GETTING LAID

DON’T SEXUALIZE WOMEN TOO MUCH

When you talk to a woman, try not see her as a sexual trophy, but as a person like yourself. If you focus so much on her sexuality, you tend to lose your cool and she’d know you’re just after sex.

NOTHING SPECIAL

Don’t attach any special significance to the woman you talk to. If you act like she’s too good for you, she’s start thinking that as well. The best is to see her as human being with all the flaws and qualities of the average person.

LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS

When you talk to a woman, don’t expect an end goal. Just go with the flow. You’ll be amazed at how much easier things get when you don’t think of accomplish something by the end.

DON’T TAKE THINGS TOO PERSONAL

If you want to succeed in the game of romance, you can’t take every comment, insinuation or joke to heart. Have a good sense of humor and just know that women sometimes say things they don’t actually mean.

DON’T LET THE FEAR REJECTION STOP YOU

You can’t expect to succeed every time, but you will never succeed if you do not try. Don’t let the fear of rejection stop you from making a move. View every encounter with as a positive learning experience.

                          MAKE WOMEN RUN AFTER YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FOCUS LESS ON YOUR SELF

Shyness and hesitation occurs when you think about your flaws (don’t think so much about your diction, or how not so good your lines are). Focus more on the woman you are talking to; You’ll forget about your jitters and she’ll be flattered by the attention.

I trust these few tips will help you build your confidence when you approach a woman. Sure it will time some time and persistence but the reward as we all know is definitely worth it….good luck out there guys.

If you really want a girl to fall in love with you, you will have to go the extra mile. Truth is; you might not be the only one interested in her at that particular point in time. There are probably some other cool dudes who are wooing her-they want what you want (they want her to fall in love with them). Hence she might be in a little dilemma- that’s why you have to be smart and willing to take that extra step needed to ensure you’re the last thing she thinks of when she goes to bed and the very first thought that crosses her mind when she wakes up in the morning. You need to make her see you as special, as someone she can’t do without. Become an indispensable part of her world.

 Making a girl fall in love is both easy and tricky. Some guys just seem to fail no matter how hard they try while others appear to get it right every time. If you've ever been unfortunate at your attempt to make a girl you love so much fall in love with you or  are just trying so hard to make a girl feel the same way for you as you feel about her. Well stop trying so hard--it ain't Rocket Science**smiles**. What you need my friend is a better perspective to doing things. A proper way to go about it, here I will show you some easy steps to make a girl fall deeply in love with you:

Ø  TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

If you want a girl to fall in love with you, you need to show her that you are capable of taking care of yourself. Practice good hygiene, wear nice clothes and exercise regularly. Keep your body good, clean, nice and strong.

Ø  SHOW HER YOU HAVE LOVABLE QUALITIES

No one just wakes up and morning and says; “I wanna fall in love with him/her”. It happens when me meet someone with lovable qualities. Let your personality shine through make her see the special and lovable person you are.

Ø  A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR

This goes beyond just being able to make her laugh or make people laugh. Having a good sense of humor goes both ways. You should also be able to laugh at her jokes and also learn to take a joke too. Nobody likes anyone that flares up when we crack joke at them. Learn  not just to make her laugh but to laugh too.

Ø  BE PLAYFUL

Don’t walk around like the whole world is on your shoulders. Approach life with an open minded and playful attitude don’t take things too seriously, make what would normally be a boring routine fun- that way you radiate joy and happiness from within. Belief me that is more charming that a pot of love portion.

Ø  HAVE CONFIDENCE

Know what you are good at and fix it into your routine let her see you exude confidence in what you do and even when you talk. But don’t get carried away so you don’t appear cocky, arrogant or obnoxious. It helps to make a little joke about your flaws from time to time.

Ø  GET TO KNOW HER

Getting to know her is more than just memorizing her birthday or favorite color. Spend quality time with her, understand her love language. If there is something that interests her (say a sporting activity) engage in it with her. Even if you don’t know much about it, let her teach you, just show eagerness and enthusiasm

TAKE HER ON GREAT DATES

Take her to amazing places on your dates. Be strategic and creative when you plan your date. Take her to places that will blow her mind and at the same time allow you to bond with her.

Ø  DON’T GET CLINGY

Don’t  plan a date with her every day, suffocating her or bullying her into a relationship will don’t do you any good. Don’t make it seem like you are desperate to get her to fall in love with you. Allow her some space in between dates but still let her know you are interested.

Ø  EXPECT NOTHING

Teach yourself to expect nothing from the girl. Remember love thrives in the absence of pressure. Letting go of your expectations will make you more relaxed which will make you more appealing to her than if you’re uptight and worried.

 This way even if she doesn’t fall in love with you, you won’t be utterly disappointed but if she does fall in love with you, you will be pleasantly surprised.

Ø  RESPECT HER

Try to see things from her perspective, show her you admire and respect her opinion. Every woman likes a man that respects her.

Ø  BE HONEST

Honesty builds trust and it is very easy to fall in love with someone you trust. Being with someone they can trust brings about this feeling of security and that works wonders on a woman’s psyche.

Ø  BE WILLING TO LISTEN AND COMMUNICATE

You must learn to listen patiently and passively. Don’t be in such a hurry to make your point known. Rather listen more to her.  Recognize her wants and needs. Be truly open to her expressions and feelings both verbalized and held deep within.

Ø  SAY NICE THINGS TO HER

Always give her good compliments. When she does something nice or when she makes a new hair or put on some really pretty dress. Be a sweet Gentleman; call her very early in the morning just to her voice (tell her something like-I just wanted to start my day with your voice) and at night before she sleeps. That way you stay on her mind morning and night.

One last important tip guys; be patient; love takes time to grow so try to be patient with her and also keep an open mind- you may really want someone to fall in love with you, but make sure you use your head as well as your heart. Love is only the starting point of a healthy relationship. The rest depends on communication, compatibility and commitment.

Most people don’t pay much attention to a first date. They feel it’s just a casual meeting to find out if they are compatible with the other person, but that is not all that a first date is. First dates are usually what sets the tone of the relationship. Score a perfect first date and your date will be eager for a second and will be more open to take the relationship to a higher level. But a very boring first date will limit your chances of a second date. In other to hit the bull’s eye on a first date you should have a creatively planned first date that will wow your date.

During the course of your date they are signs your date will give, this signs are more like body expressions if he/she is having a good time or not. Here are some signs your date is having a good time with you:

v  SITTING POSTURE

If your date is into you and is having fun. You can tell by their sitting posture. If your date is leaning towards you, it means they are enjoying the conversation and are excited to be with you. Another positive posture is when your date sits back in a relaxed manner and gives you the calm, sexy look. That is a sign of comfort-your date is very comfortable with you.

 

v  DEEP STARES

When your date stares deeply into your eyes during a conversation or you notice them just giving you that long stare it’s a way of telling you he/she admires you and wants to get closer to you.

v  OPENING UP

If your date enjoys your company, they’d have no problem discussing some personal stuff with you. truth is we all seek to connect with people and hence we strike that connection we want to share cause we all have a lot inside us that we’d like to share. If you’re able to make your date comfortable and connect with them, they’d always have something to share with you.

v  EXCITING SIMILARITIES

During conversation, if your date get overly excited when both of you share similar interest in things, it means they’re obviously happy to know you both the same interest in things.

v  GETTING CLOSER

Another positive sign your date is having a good time/enjoying your company is when they draw closer to you during the course of the date. When your date adjusts their sitting position to move even closer to you or walk really close to you almost as if you are attached at the hip. Then you know they are getting very comfortable with you.

v  SMILES

A person who is infatuated by your presence can’t help smiling during the date. You’d notice they give you warm smiles when you’re saying something. That is an encouragement. Your date likes you and likes what you’re saying.

v  COMPLIMENTS

If your date laughs at the smallest jokes you make or blush when you compliment them then he/she digs you big time.

v  STRETCHING THE DATE

If your date looks for ways to stretch the date either by bringing up more conversations or finishing their dessert real slow, it means the person doesn’t want the date to end just yet meaning the person is enjoying your company.

v  PLAN AHEAD

If you date ask you when next they can see you again. Or hints about next time both of you can get together. Your date is probably falling for you already.

v  LINGERING MOMENTS

While saying goodbye after the date, watch your dates expression and body language. If your date looks back at you more than once while walking away, they probably don’t even want to say goodbye just yet.

If you date holds your hand softly and takes their time letting go of you or just find some reason to remain with you even after saying goodbye, the person probably wants to do more than just say good bye.