Approaching someone for the first time is tough and nerve wrecking but the result is infinitely worth the risk. Many men have tried and tried really hard yet failed miserably at starting up a conversation with a woman they just come across either at a party, a bar or on the street. When it comes to starting a conversation with a girl one just met, some guys wonder; should I go with a cool pick up line or some confident walk up followed by some smooth talking. Well either could work but many times it won`t because you are predictable. Why? That is the same exact thing most guys will do and women are probably already sick and tired of cheesy pick up lines. You have to come with a different approach one that keeps her surprises her yet makes her comfortable. Warm her up to the conversation, let her know you intend to walk up to her and say hello to her, allow your eyes do the initial talking, give her sweet stares( not the I want you in bed stare- just I admire you stare). If she reciprocates your stare, it means she is anticipating you and wondering when you are going to walk up to her- This will actually build up the excitement and make her wait for you instead. Now if you decide to make the move and crack up a conversation with her here are a few pointers on how to start up a conversation with a girl [if you are still struggling with shyness around women then you must: Swallow the frog and overcome shyness with women]

INTRODUCE YOURSELF

Approach the girl with a smile (there is nothing more charming than warm and sincere smile) and say hello. Tell her your name and ask for hers; Keep it simple. A genuine polite greeting beats a cheesy pick up line any day.

ASK HOW SHE’S DOING

Asking a girl how she’s doing doesn’t only make a good impression, it tells her that you are genuinely interested in her. A polite “how is your day going?” is a nice way to get her talking.

FIND A COMMON GROUND

You can comment about the weather, class work or event depending on where you are meeting her. Just make your comment be more like a question so you can get her opinion

POSE AN INTERESTING QUESTION

Now ask her an unusual/thought provoking question. This will surely break the ice as she is both surprised and impressed at the same time. Ask something like “if you had the power to change something on earth what would that be?” or what are the top three places you would like to visit before you grow old?

AVOID CONTROVERSIAL TOPICS

Bringing up controversial topics such as politics or religion can make her feel uncomfortable or even get her angry. Talk about nature, weather and wild life or even history. These topics are less sensitive.

AVOID YES OR NO QUESTIONS

Avoid questions that can be answered with simple yes or no. try to ask more open-ended questions that require longer, more thoughtful answers.

COMPLIMENT HER

Now is the time to throw in some sweet compliment to make her feel like a princess but be careful your compliments don’t sound lame and out of place. It’s best you channel your compliment along the line of your discussion. Tell her, how smart her answers to your questions were or tell her you nice and friendly she is for talking to you. If she smile s to any of your compliments then add how lovely her smile is, don’t get carried away, one or two precise compliment is probably all that you need.

ASK A PERSONAL QUESTION

If you have follow the previous steps well, she’s probably already comfortable talking to you by now so try to throw in a personal question-it will tell her you want to get to know her better. However, don’t go on and on with your questions- the goal is to engage her not intrude.

OPEN UP

Open up about yourself give the girl more and more reasons to like you. Respond to her questions and let her get to know you a little. But don’t get carried away talking about yourself nobody likes anyone that is full of themselves even if you are, you don’t want to show her that now.

MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT

It is important to maintain eye contact before and during the conversation. If she notice you are looking away she might take it you are not interested in the conversation or she’s boring you. Don’t send the wrong message. Keep that smile on your face and maintain a good eye contact.

I hope these tips work well for you………………..best of luck guys.

If you really want a girl to fall in love with you, you will have to go the extra mile. Truth is; you might not be the only one interested in her at that particular point in time. There are probably some other cool dudes who are wooing her-they want what you want (they want her to fall in love with them). Hence she might be in a little dilemma- that’s why you have to be smart and willing to take that extra step needed to ensure you’re the last thing she thinks of when she goes to bed and the very first thought that crosses her mind when she wakes up in the morning. You need to make her see you as special, as someone she can’t do without. Become an indispensable part of her world.

 Making a girl fall in love is both easy and tricky. Some guys just seem to fail no matter how hard they try while others appear to get it right every time. If you've ever been unfortunate at your attempt to make a girl you love so much fall in love with you or  are just trying so hard to make a girl feel the same way for you as you feel about her. Well stop trying so hard--it ain't Rocket Science**smiles**. What you need my friend is a better perspective to doing things. A proper way to go about it, here I will show you some easy steps to make a girl fall deeply in love with you:

Ø  TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

If you want a girl to fall in love with you, you need to show her that you are capable of taking care of yourself. Practice good hygiene, wear nice clothes and exercise regularly. Keep your body good, clean, nice and strong.

Ø  SHOW HER YOU HAVE LOVABLE QUALITIES

No one just wakes up and morning and says; “I wanna fall in love with him/her”. It happens when me meet someone with lovable qualities. Let your personality shine through make her see the special and lovable person you are.

Ø  A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR

This goes beyond just being able to make her laugh or make people laugh. Having a good sense of humor goes both ways. You should also be able to laugh at her jokes and also learn to take a joke too. Nobody likes anyone that flares up when we crack joke at them. Learn  not just to make her laugh but to laugh too.

Ø  BE PLAYFUL

Don’t walk around like the whole world is on your shoulders. Approach life with an open minded and playful attitude don’t take things too seriously, make what would normally be a boring routine fun- that way you radiate joy and happiness from within. Belief me that is more charming that a pot of love portion.

Ø  HAVE CONFIDENCE

Know what you are good at and fix it into your routine let her see you exude confidence in what you do and even when you talk. But don’t get carried away so you don’t appear cocky, arrogant or obnoxious. It helps to make a little joke about your flaws from time to time.

Ø  GET TO KNOW HER

Getting to know her is more than just memorizing her birthday or favorite color. Spend quality time with her, understand her love language. If there is something that interests her (say a sporting activity) engage in it with her. Even if you don’t know much about it, let her teach you, just show eagerness and enthusiasm

TAKE HER ON GREAT DATES

Take her to amazing places on your dates. Be strategic and creative when you plan your date. Take her to places that will blow her mind and at the same time allow you to bond with her.

Ø  DON’T GET CLINGY

Don’t  plan a date with her every day, suffocating her or bullying her into a relationship will don’t do you any good. Don’t make it seem like you are desperate to get her to fall in love with you. Allow her some space in between dates but still let her know you are interested.

Ø  EXPECT NOTHING

Teach yourself to expect nothing from the girl. Remember love thrives in the absence of pressure. Letting go of your expectations will make you more relaxed which will make you more appealing to her than if you’re uptight and worried.

 This way even if she doesn’t fall in love with you, you won’t be utterly disappointed but if she does fall in love with you, you will be pleasantly surprised.

Ø  RESPECT HER

Try to see things from her perspective, show her you admire and respect her opinion. Every woman likes a man that respects her.

Ø  BE HONEST

Honesty builds trust and it is very easy to fall in love with someone you trust. Being with someone they can trust brings about this feeling of security and that works wonders on a woman’s psyche.

Ø  BE WILLING TO LISTEN AND COMMUNICATE

You must learn to listen patiently and passively. Don’t be in such a hurry to make your point known. Rather listen more to her.  Recognize her wants and needs. Be truly open to her expressions and feelings both verbalized and held deep within.

Ø  SAY NICE THINGS TO HER

Always give her good compliments. When she does something nice or when she makes a new hair or put on some really pretty dress. Be a sweet Gentleman; call her very early in the morning just to her voice (tell her something like-I just wanted to start my day with your voice) and at night before she sleeps. That way you stay on her mind morning and night.

One last important tip guys; be patient; love takes time to grow so try to be patient with her and also keep an open mind- you may really want someone to fall in love with you, but make sure you use your head as well as your heart. Love is only the starting point of a healthy relationship. The rest depends on communication, compatibility and commitment.