Shyness is a debilitating condition for many man, it
prevents them from functioning well in social situations, and from voicing
their real concerns in public. Shyness is also one of men’s greatest weaknesses
when it comes to women. This is the reason why most men find it difficult to
approach a woman.
The root of men’s shyness when approaching women, are his
negative thoughts. Just before a guy makes his move on a lady, they are three
questions that ring in his head:
i.
What if am rejected- his
mind quickly plays a scene of the woman rejecting him and how ashamed he would
feel
ii.
What if she ignores me
or worse, what if she just laughs at me?
iii.
What if I say the wrong
things (for some others it’s; I don’t even know what to say to her).
These negative possibilities that play in his mind gets him nervous,
hesitant and most often times he backs out.
Shyness has stopped most good men with great qualities from
dating the woman of their dreams. If you are the shy type and you secretly fear
that you may not be able to date the girl of your dreams just because you can’t
summon enough courage to approach her. Then the time to come out of your hole
is now- **swallow that frog** Here are few tips to help you overcome your
shyness when approaching a woman
GET OUT AND SOCIALIZE
Join activities in which you are always interacting with
people. Be prepared to exchange pleasantries with people in your activity
group. Don’t be afraid to chat up (start a conversation) with people in your
activity group. A simple hello, how is it going? is enough to start a
conversation.
TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME
Start with a smile; show everyone you are friendly and
approachable then you can move on to saying “hi” from there “making complements”
then “small talks”. As you keep going you’d see it’s not as hard as you
thought.
If beautiful women intimidate you take baby steps up the
beauty scale. Start by approaching more average-looking women you feel
confident with. As you become at ease with them, you can then move on to
prettier women.
DON’T SEXUALIZE WOMEN TOO
MUCH
When you talk to a woman, try not see her as a sexual
trophy, but as a person like yourself. If you focus so much on her sexuality,
you tend to lose your cool and she’d know you’re just after sex.
NOTHING SPECIAL
Don’t attach any special significance to the woman you talk
to. If you act like she’s too good for you, she’s start thinking that as well.
The best is to see her as human being with all the flaws and qualities of the
average person.
LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS
When you talk to a woman, don’t expect an end goal. Just go
with the flow. You’ll be amazed at how much easier things get when you don’t
think of accomplish something by the end.
DON’T TAKE THINGS TOO
PERSONAL
If you want to succeed in the game of romance, you can’t
take every comment, insinuation or joke to heart. Have a good sense of humor
and just know that women sometimes say things they don’t actually mean.
DON’T LET THE FEAR
REJECTION STOP YOU
You can’t expect to succeed every time, but you will never
succeed if you do not try. Don’t let the fear of rejection stop you from making
a move. View every encounter with as a positive learning experience.
FOCUS LESS ON YOUR SELF
Shyness and hesitation occurs when you
think about your flaws (don’t think so much about your diction, or how not so
good your lines are). Focus more on the woman you are talking to; You’ll forget
about your jitters and she’ll be flattered by the attention.
I trust these few tips will help you build your confidence
when you approach a woman. Sure it will time some time and persistence but the
reward as we all know is definitely worth it….good luck out there guys.
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