Lasting longer in bed seems to be
one of the main concerns men have concerning sex. This particular topic is so important to men that you see
several guys posting this exact question in forums and so many other places.
Just asking the same thing "HOW CAN I LAST LONGER IN BED?"
It’s completely understandable, you
wouldn't blame them. I for one understand just how embarrassing it is to cum a
little too soon. Believe me I Lost my first ever girlfriend for that single reason
and each time I reminisce about the whole thing, it makes me laugh. I went in
to her and I didn't even last 45 seconds. I couldn't even control my thrusting.
Well in my defense that was my first time and I didn't really know what I was
doing. But she left with a sad and displeased face and since that fateful day I
never heard from her, ever again.
After that event, I decide I was not
going to have sex again with any woman until I knew what I was doing. Hence, I
decide to take sex as a course. I was going to master the act of pleasing women sexually……ask about my progress? Am not there yet because I don’t think I qualify to be addressed as a master yet. Truth is the more I learned the more I discovered there was even more to learn. One thing I have come to understand
it’s the fact that any man can last as long as he chooses in bed so long he is
ready to make the necessary sacrifice. I mean take a good look at your life
almost every good thing you know how to do so well today you had to learn how
to do it didn't you? So why do we now think we should be masters at sex just by default?
Now back to our discussion. Unless you
are a man from a different planet giving a woman orgasm is a hell of an ego
booster…there is something about being able to please a woman that gives you
this feeling that you are special, different if fact the word is you are super. Fellas trust me you are! indeed.
Truth is only very few women even have orgasm during sex largely because of
time difference between the male and female orgasm. So if you are able to hold
your orgasm long enough just till she has hers or you have it together then you
really are THE MAN!
By default, it takes a man about 4 minutes
to cum after penetration heck some men even cum in seconds [I did] if they
don’t have proper control or get too excited. But on the other hand it takes a
woman about 18 minutes to reach orgasm. Yeah!!!!!!
Did I hear you say that is suicide? HOW
DO YOU EXPECT ME TO KEEP THRUSTING FOR 18 WHOLE MINUTES? THAT WAS THE QUESTION
I ASKED WHEN I FIRST SAW THAT RESEARCH. Then I told myself “it’s pointless I
can't do it”
Good news Fellas is that yours sincerely
as I write this post I sometimes go for 20-25 minutes [even more]. I have to
make myself cum when I realize she is at it already…so trust me, if I can do it
[all the way from 45 secs] then I believe anyone definitely can do it too. All
you need is patience and dedication to these easy steps that I am going to give
you on how to last longer in bed.
MASTURBATION
When you masturbate, try lasting up
to 15 minutes before ejaculating. I advice you have a timer/stopwatch close to you.
Each time you feel you’re close just stop and breath, allow the tension to cool
off a little before you begin again. When masturbating have the woman's orgasm
in mind, not your own. This will help you focus on the more important thing,
which is pleasing the woman, and it will help you keep your mind off
ejaculating.
I realize that most people hardly
breathe properly during sex- just short breathes which is as bad as not
breathing at all. Breathe .Let it start from your stomach, draw in long breaths
and release completely. If you get too aroused and it seems you are losing
control of your nostrils breath with your mouth [remember complete breathe].
Don’t worry about the sound you make, heavy breathing can be a great turn on
for your partner during sex. Whatever you do just make sure you are breathing
completely. If you realize you stopped [trust me it can happen-involuntary at
some point during sex].Force yourself to resume.
PROLONG
FOREPLAY
Spending more time on foreplay helps
you remain cool and in control of your excitement. Take your time on her body
kiss her from head to toe some women even get turned on when you kiss their
hair [strange but true]. See her body as an adventure, let every kiss linger
especially her stomach, abdomen and vagina. Be sensitive during foreplay notice
how she reacts to any part of her body you touch this will help you stimulate
her better. Give more attention to her more sensitive spots this will bring her
closer to orgasm so when you penetrate you won’t have to work too hard to get
her there.
DON'T THINK OF HAVING AN ORGASM
DURING SEX.
When
you think of finishing, that's exactly what will happen. Focus on something
else like pleasing your partner. Focus on her curves, her body, and what's
going on at the moment. Enjoy the moment.
TRY
DIFFERENT POSITIONS.
By doing this not only are you
showing her that you can please her in multiple ways, but you'll find out what
she enjoys most.
This will also allow you to last
longer in bed, because it'll give you resting periods and prevent
over-stimulation from one position. But please don’t copy that insert and remove
thing they do in porn movies that won’t help you.
TAKE
SHORT BREAKS
During sex, if you feel you're
becoming too aroused, stop for 5-10 seconds and let the excitement subside.
Instead of thrusting try pressing. The difference is that when you thrust you
have a burst of blood flow and your excitement increases much faster. It's
better to avoid this until the end when either you or she's ready to climax.
EXERCISE
[USE KEGEL EXERCISES]
These exercises help to tighten muscles
that are responsible for ejaculatory control. The more you work these muscles
out the more control you have on how soon you ejaculate. This also helps for
erectile dysfunction, going to the bathroom too often. To do these exercises
you first have to find the muscle. Next time you pee, try stopping mid flow.
That flexing you used to stop peeing is the same flexing you need to practice.
Flex the muscle daily. Flex the muscle for 5 seconds and release. Do this for
10 minutes a day, and it will do you wonders.
NUMBING
CREAM
I doubt you will need numbing cream
if you can follow the steps I listed above faithfully. I have being working
with these same steps I listed above and am doing pretty well. However, you can
make use numbing cream while you still work on improving your yourself
naturally. Though you have to be careful
which product you opt for. Not all numbing creams are completely healthy for
your penis.
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