Approaching someone for the first time is tough and nerve wrecking but the result is infinitely worth the risk. Many men have tried and tried really hard yet failed miserably at starting up a conversation with a woman they just come across either at a party, a bar or on the street. When it comes to starting a conversation with a girl one just met, some guys wonder; should I go with a cool pick up line or some confident walk up followed by some smooth talking. Well either could work but many times it won`t because you are predictable. Why? That is the same exact thing most guys will do and women are probably already sick and tired of cheesy pick up lines. You have to come with a different approach one that keeps her surprises her yet makes her comfortable. Warm her up to the conversation, let her know you intend to walk up to her and say hello to her, allow your eyes do the initial talking, give her sweet stares( not the I want you in bed stare- just I admire you stare). If she reciprocates your stare, it means she is anticipating you and wondering when you are going to walk up to her- This will actually build up the excitement and make her wait for you instead. Now if you decide to make the move and crack up a conversation with her here are a few pointers on how to start up a conversation with a girl [if you are still struggling with shyness around women then you must: Swallow the frog and overcome shyness with women]

INTRODUCE YOURSELF

Approach the girl with a smile (there is nothing more charming than warm and sincere smile) and say hello. Tell her your name and ask for hers; Keep it simple. A genuine polite greeting beats a cheesy pick up line any day.

ASK HOW SHE’S DOING

Asking a girl how she’s doing doesn’t only make a good impression, it tells her that you are genuinely interested in her. A polite “how is your day going?” is a nice way to get her talking.

FIND A COMMON GROUND

You can comment about the weather, class work or event depending on where you are meeting her. Just make your comment be more like a question so you can get her opinion

POSE AN INTERESTING QUESTION

Now ask her an unusual/thought provoking question. This will surely break the ice as she is both surprised and impressed at the same time. Ask something like “if you had the power to change something on earth what would that be?” or what are the top three places you would like to visit before you grow old?

AVOID CONTROVERSIAL TOPICS

Bringing up controversial topics such as politics or religion can make her feel uncomfortable or even get her angry. Talk about nature, weather and wild life or even history. These topics are less sensitive.

AVOID YES OR NO QUESTIONS

Avoid questions that can be answered with simple yes or no. try to ask more open-ended questions that require longer, more thoughtful answers.

COMPLIMENT HER

Now is the time to throw in some sweet compliment to make her feel like a princess but be careful your compliments don’t sound lame and out of place. It’s best you channel your compliment along the line of your discussion. Tell her, how smart her answers to your questions were or tell her you nice and friendly she is for talking to you. If she smile s to any of your compliments then add how lovely her smile is, don’t get carried away, one or two precise compliment is probably all that you need.

ASK A PERSONAL QUESTION

If you have follow the previous steps well, she’s probably already comfortable talking to you by now so try to throw in a personal question-it will tell her you want to get to know her better. However, don’t go on and on with your questions- the goal is to engage her not intrude.

OPEN UP

Open up about yourself give the girl more and more reasons to like you. Respond to her questions and let her get to know you a little. But don’t get carried away talking about yourself nobody likes anyone that is full of themselves even if you are, you don’t want to show her that now.

MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT

It is important to maintain eye contact before and during the conversation. If she notice you are looking away she might take it you are not interested in the conversation or she’s boring you. Don’t send the wrong message. Keep that smile on your face and maintain a good eye contact.

I hope these tips work well for you………………..best of luck guys.

Most people don’t pay much attention to a first date. They feel it’s just a casual meeting to find out if they are compatible with the other person, but that is not all that a first date is. First dates are usually what sets the tone of the relationship. Score a perfect first date and your date will be eager for a second and will be more open to take the relationship to a higher level. But a very boring first date will limit your chances of a second date. In other to hit the bull’s eye on a first date you should have a creatively planned first date that will wow your date.

During the course of your date they are signs your date will give, this signs are more like body expressions if he/she is having a good time or not. Here are some signs your date is having a good time with you:

v  SITTING POSTURE

If your date is into you and is having fun. You can tell by their sitting posture. If your date is leaning towards you, it means they are enjoying the conversation and are excited to be with you. Another positive posture is when your date sits back in a relaxed manner and gives you the calm, sexy look. That is a sign of comfort-your date is very comfortable with you.

 

v  DEEP STARES

When your date stares deeply into your eyes during a conversation or you notice them just giving you that long stare it’s a way of telling you he/she admires you and wants to get closer to you.

v  OPENING UP

If your date enjoys your company, they’d have no problem discussing some personal stuff with you. truth is we all seek to connect with people and hence we strike that connection we want to share cause we all have a lot inside us that we’d like to share. If you’re able to make your date comfortable and connect with them, they’d always have something to share with you.

v  EXCITING SIMILARITIES

During conversation, if your date get overly excited when both of you share similar interest in things, it means they’re obviously happy to know you both the same interest in things.

v  GETTING CLOSER

Another positive sign your date is having a good time/enjoying your company is when they draw closer to you during the course of the date. When your date adjusts their sitting position to move even closer to you or walk really close to you almost as if you are attached at the hip. Then you know they are getting very comfortable with you.

v  SMILES

A person who is infatuated by your presence can’t help smiling during the date. You’d notice they give you warm smiles when you’re saying something. That is an encouragement. Your date likes you and likes what you’re saying.

v  COMPLIMENTS

If your date laughs at the smallest jokes you make or blush when you compliment them then he/she digs you big time.

v  STRETCHING THE DATE

If your date looks for ways to stretch the date either by bringing up more conversations or finishing their dessert real slow, it means the person doesn’t want the date to end just yet meaning the person is enjoying your company.

v  PLAN AHEAD

If you date ask you when next they can see you again. Or hints about next time both of you can get together. Your date is probably falling for you already.

v  LINGERING MOMENTS

While saying goodbye after the date, watch your dates expression and body language. If your date looks back at you more than once while walking away, they probably don’t even want to say goodbye just yet.

If you date holds your hand softly and takes their time letting go of you or just find some reason to remain with you even after saying goodbye, the person probably wants to do more than just say good bye.